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Smart Civics, Higher Citizenship – Answer The Call To Conscious Leadership

Observations across diverse populations indicate that while we need to be getting better at having hard conversations about change, we are, unfortunately, getting worse. As a result, change initiatives are stalling and issues are festering, causing turnover and instability that threatens productivity and profits. Even worse, those who feel unheard can end up resorting to more extreme measures.

That is why our discussion during last week’s event on Smart Civics, Higher Citizenship was so important. The two panelists who joined us have both developed programs that move communities and organizations past the barriers that have been stifling progress, innovation, and social and racial justice, among other societal threats.

Doc Cunningham is Founder of See America In Color, Social Commentator, and Civic Advisor. He facilitates civic discussions in communities and brings new vibrancy and dimension to inequities so that the gaps become more obvious, encouraging more people to become a part of the solution.

Michael Taylor is Principal and Co-Founder of SchellingPoint, who brings research and a tech-driven approach to aligning people with a common purpose to take action and move in the desired direction.

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Here is just some of what we covered:

  • What are the gaps in conventional change management that produce lackluster progress?
  • What is the central frame of change that has led to a more sustainable impact?
  • In order to create coordination action, what do we first have to determine to inform that action?
  • What must you do before you associate a root cause of issues originating with an executive leader?
  • How do you get a group of thought leaders and experts to yield their ego, agree on a plan, and follow through?
  • How do fundamental disconnects on core beliefs sabotage collaborative change efforts and what can be done about it?
  • What are the three triggers of executive action?
  • How can you shift division about whether change is necessary or not? Furthermore, how can you engage or re-engage leadership in decisions around that change that lead to some degree of change?
  • How and why do we want to turn pain into possibility?
  • What are the breakthroughs in behavioral science that have helped to develop the alignment cycle?
  • What are the 5 things a group needs to commit to or reject before they are aligned in action?
  • How can we reconcile the diverse ways analysis can be interpreted?
  • How can you alleviate some resistance to change?

Chances are if you are reading this, there is some change you would like to see. If you are accountable and the progress, or probable progress, discourages you, I highly recommend reaching out to SchellingPoint. Also, contact Doc about his civics programs that “help society lessen the impact of partisan hang-ups and social flare-ups.”

Remember to tune in to our second Answer The Call to Conscious Leadership event this month on Unconscious Bias hosted by TaJuanna Taylor and Carl Shawn Watkins. As always, details on how to attend the live discussion will be shared with you inside of C3.

Last but not least, registration to ConCon 2021 is open. ConCon 2021 will take place virtually on November 5th and 6th. Get your early bird discount today before it expires!

Karen Huller is the creator of the Corporate Consciousness Ripple Blueprint and author of Laser-sharp Career Focus: Pinpoint your Purpose and Passion in 30 Days. She founded Epic Careering, a leadership and career development firm specializing in executive branding and conscious culture, in 2006. 

While the bulk of her 20 years of professional experience has been within the recruiting and employment industry, her publications, presentations, and coaching also draw from experience in personal development, performance, broadcasting, marketing, and sales. Her solutions incorporate breakthroughs in neuroscience, human performance optimization, bioenergetics, and psychology to help leaders accelerate rapport, expand influence, and elevate engagement and productivity while also looking out for the sustainability of the business and the planet.

Mrs. Huller was one of the first LinkedIn trainers and is known widely for her ability to identify and develop new trends. She is a Certified Professional Résumé Writer, Certified Career Transition Consultant, and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist with a Bachelor of Art in Communication Studies and Theater from Ursinus College and a minor in Creative Writing. Her blog was recognized as a top 100 career blog worldwide by Feedspot. 

She was an Adjunct Professor in Cabrini University’s Communications Department and an Adjunct Professor of Career Management and Professional Development at Drexel University’s LeBow College of Business. As an instructor for the Young Entrepreneurs Academy, she has helped two of her students win the 2018 National Competition to be named America’s Next Top Young Entrepreneurs, to win the 2019 People’s Choice Award, and to land in the top 8 during the (virtual) 2020 National Competition.

She is board secretary for the Upper Merion Community Center and just finished serving as Vice President of the Gulph Elementary PTC, for which she received recognition as a Public Education Partner and Promoter from the Upper Merion Area Education Association. She lives in King of Prussia with her husband, two daughters, and many pets, furry, feathered, and scaly.

Step 4 to Career Happiness: Allow, Accept, and Architect

The Architect’s Hands by Steve Grant of Flickr

When you visualize yourself in your ideal future, is there dissonance that makes you resentful, fearful, or even guilty?

Does it make sense that if you experience these emotions, you are not able to fully go for it?

Actually, you can, but you have to acknowledge these emotions, confront them, and overcome them first. You have to dis-empower them, or they stand to call the shots without you even realizing it.

  • They may prevent you from reaching out to a VIP.
  • They could make other things more important than attending that event or filling out that application (which, as you know by now is your last resort, Plan D, but still sometimes necessary).
  • They could keep you from articulately and powerfully promoting yourself when you do get the chance to interact with potential game-changing contacts.
  • They could stop you from stepping up in a meeting to share your idea.
  • They can keep you from trying at all, even just doing online research.

How do you dis-empower them?

The first step you did last week. You noticed them. You have no chance of stopping them if you do not even realize they are there, and tuning in to how you feel when you really put yourself in the place of having your ideal future is a great way to initially notice them. However, the next step is to catch them while they are operating in your life.

Mel Robbins talks about this phenomenon called activation energy – it is a natural occurrence when you have an inkling to take action, but it dissipates after five seconds if you do nothing (what she calls the five-second rule).

She is pretty clear about this – fail to take advantage of activation energy, and you are sabotaging yourself. Why do we do that? These automatic thoughts that manifest as negative emotions are the reason.

So, next time you have an idea to do something that could potentially bring you closer to your future, be mindful of your decision.

Do you decide that you’ll do it later? Do you really ever do it later?

Do you not only add it to your list of things to do, do you add it to your calendar?

Or, do you take care of it right away?

According to Mel, you do not have to necessarily take care of it right away, but you if you take a baby step, you will experience all the good feelings, such as pride and optimism, that can lead you to forming good action-taking habits faster. You can become addicted to these good feelings, and that will lead you to take immediate action more frequently. This immediate action will compound toward momentum that gets you ever closer to your ideal situation.

If, however, you do none of these things, really look at why. By really, I do not mean what was your excuse. In most cases your excuse is just how you justified it to yourself to ease the negative feelings of inaction – further guilt, shame, etc. that can compound instead toward depression and anxiety, which further hampers your ability to take action on your own behalf. By really look at why I mean, what was the automatic thought and corresponding emotion that led you to do nothing.  Allow these thoughts to surface. You could have been suppressing them so long you have tuned them out. It could take some time for you to fully take notice of them.

I am NOT intending for you to feel bad about your inaction. As I explained, this is of little value and can actually be a hindrance. The intention is for you to find the lesson; identify the thought, acknowledge it, listen to it. Give it a chance to make a case for truth. Act as the judge and jury, weighing the veracity of this thought.

Will your friends and family really ostracize you for achieving something great in your life?

Will you change for the worse by being successful?

Will you be a hypocrite?

You may find, actually, that there is truth to these statements, in which case you now have to make an empowered choice to either accept mediocrity for the sake of integrity, love, and acceptance, or you can decide that achieving a more ideal version of your life is worth risking love and acceptance. You may also decide that it is ultimately up to you whether you maintain good character or not (which it is). Perhaps your ideal future is not as ideal as you thought, and you can create a new vision of an ideal future that would not have you risking so much.

On the other hand, you may adopt a “make it work” attitude. If your neighbors, friends, or families really cannot accept a more successful you, they will learn to. You can reassure them. Love is stronger than judgment.

You may also find none of these things are truth – just fears, perhaps even fears that were someone else’s originally – not yours. You adopted them, but you can now reject them.

Before you do, though, thank them. Be grateful for your new awareness of these thoughts. Either accept them or release them, and then feel the sense of peace that you have with your decision.

 

Whether you decide that your ideal vision of the future is not worth what you think you could lose, or you decide to adopt a new way of thinking about having an ideal future, you get to be the architect of change in your own life.