Have you taken the 7-day challenge to identify who is REALLY in control of your career decisions?
I would be very interested in hearing if you did, what results you found, and if you have found one that works best for you.
This week I will share two more, but this list is by no means exhaustive. I have learned over 30 methods in the past nine years.
These last two are the methods I learned most recently, and they are extremely powerful. You will have to be brave to try them, and have a strong imagination. You may feel silly, but until you try it, you have no idea how much you had to release, nor how light and free you can feel by releasing it. The point is to make room for new, better things to happen in your life.
As much as our parents loved us and had good intentions to raise us well, they are human. They come to the parenting job with their own “baggage.” By baggage, I mean belief systems that may have been limiting their own potential. Their world continually proves their beliefs right, and so it is hard to recognize that the belief started with a story, not a fact or a truth. They then pass it on to you, in hopes of saving you from pain, suffering, and disappointment.
Then, of course, now that we are adults, we are more aware of the pressure and stress that comes along with being an adult, and how that can impact our ability to be our highest self, to cope with the needs of others, and to respond instead of react. We do not always say what we mean, and we do not always speak from the heart. Actually, we can be downright hurtful, and in those moments can wound others, just as others wounded us. As I have heard, “Hurt people hurt people,” or, “Those who cause suffering are suffering.”
The way to stop this cycle is to heal your wounds and be the parent to your younger self that you wish your parents could have been for you.
The exercise goes as follows:
- First, know what you want to heal. Pick a limiting belief.
- Get into your highest self. While sitting, allow source energy to enter your vibration by being mindful of your breath, moving deeply in and out.
- Imagine a column of light coming from above entering through the crown of your head while also imagining your body as a conductor of light and energy, sending it down your chakras through your feet into the earth, where deep within it hits a mirror and bounces back up through you, up through your chakras, and back up.
- Feel all of your cells humming with the vibration of pure love.
- Go to a mirror and look into your left eye, imagining it is the eye of your younger self.
- Ask your younger self to tell you what happened – why you started to believe in limits.
- ALLOW the pain to surface – DO NOT stifle it. Keep breathing!
- Spend 90 seconds fully embracing the pain, breathing through it, looking into your left eye, and empathizing with your younger self.
- Breathe until you have shed all signs of the pain from your body, and the child in your eye shows you relief.
- Then tell your little one what he or she needs to hear – words of encouragement, unconditional love, the truth of how infinite you are, how powerful you are, and how deserving you are.
- Reassure your younger self that all will be okay, that you are there for him or her, and always will be.
Yes, you may feel silly doing this at first, but I am really excited to hear if you felt as I did – lighter, healed, open, expansive, and ready to take on anything! Send me a private message if you care to, but if you are brave enough to share, please do.
Sending Monster-sized Love
My first official coach, the one who helped me plan and follow the path to being a coach from my recruiting days, was the first person who shared with me that we have “gremlins.” Gremlins are our inner critics, the voiced that tend to speak up and discourage us from playing big in our life. Gremlins are the spokesmonsters of our limiting beliefs. They represent our fears and insecurities. You may have also heard them referred to as demons or glitches, as though you have a bug in your system that needs fixing.
In this method, you will repeat steps 1 through 4 from above. Then, follow the steps below. Like the method above, you will need to be brave and use your imagination. The objective is to disempower the gremlin, befriend it, and see it for what it really is while you see yourself for what you really are – infinitely powerful.
- Close your eyes and imagine there is a knock at your door.
- When you open your door, you see a monster, and this monster represents the thing that you fear, hate, resent – the thing you feel holds you back. It could be money, it could be career success, or it could be love.
- It is trying its best to scare you – showing you teeth and claws, making scary sounds, and seeming very angry. Don’t let it. Invite it inside to sit down.
- As before, focus on your breath, but also check in on your heartbeat, temperature, and muscle tension.
- While looking this monster in the eye, mentally manipulate your breath to be slow and deep, will your heartbeat to slow down and release all tension in your muscles.
- Reconnect with the light flowing through your cells, imagining a ball of light and love forming in front of your heart.
- Physically hold your hands around this imaginary ball in front of your heart. You may even slowly and slightly move your hands together and apart until you sense the energy of the ball.
- Draw even more light and love in to your body, filling all of your cells to overflow into the ball.
- When it feels full, send the ball to your monster and notice the surprise on your monster’s face. You can sense that it is starting to give up trying to scare you and is feeling love, while at the same time you are feeling happy to be with your monster, spending time getting to know each other.
- Imagine now how your monster feels, and empathize with how long your monster went without feeling love.
- If your monster could talk, what would it tell you?
- Reassure your monster that from now on, you are on the same team.
- Allow yourself to feel proud for confronting and converting your monster.
My coach had shared that she had her clients blow up balloons and draw their monster on it. Then they would yell at the balloon, tell it who was boss, and pop it. I once fell into an arrow on the soft part of my neck to break the arrow that represented a self-limiting belief of unworthiness. I have also burned the list of 20 self-limiting money beliefs that I had about money during a full moon ceremony.
There are a lot of things that you can do to break through barriers to a better life, and taking action to do so is almost always rewarded somehow.
Not all of these methods may resonate with you. Some are certainly more scientific, while some are more cognitive or spiritual.
I am indifferent as to which methods you try, but I encourage you to try at least one, and share with me what difference it made to you.