Archives for November 2013

How to Get 3 Job Offers in 2 Weeks

 

Day Twenty-eight- Pain by Nathan O'nions on Flickr

Day Twenty-eight- Pain by Nathan O’nions on Flickr

My client, who had been out of work for two years, four if you count the years before a contract position, received three job offers in two weeks. Two are paying jobs and two are in an industry he has been hoping to break into. He asked me, “What’s going on?” It’s called momentum. When it’s on your side, you have power and choice. It’s never very far away, and sometimes, especially if you have the front end work done, in one day you can create the same momentum.

How long do you think it would take you to chop down a tree if you had a dull ax? How hard would it be, and how could you be sure that you would cut the tree precisely enough to avoid it falling where you don’t want to fall? At TedxPhoenixville last month, I saw Peter Muir. He’s a coach. I was expecting him to come out and talk about usual coaching topics. He came out with a chainsaw and a safety suit, and I thought, “where is this going?” The topic was “Learning a skill that could kill you.” The skill was felling a tree. You may watch the video, but to summarize, his point was –

 

Do your homework to avoid disaster and achieve success.

 

My client was able to elicit an offer because he did his homework. He spent time perusing news related to his passion and discovered an opportunity. Then he learned who was influencing decisions and what personal and professional interests they had. He stood out, his passion was evident, and his desire to make a valuable contribution was declared.

Another lesson that I took away from his presentation that may not of even been intentional, but was evident from my client’s ability to land three jobs in two weeks, was –

 

Commit to taking action, and follow through.

 

Just following up with a simple e-mail to someone he did a project for uncovered new work for my client. We can’t assume that just because we delivered top notch work for someone in the past that they are going to keep us top of mind when a new challenge presents itself, but we may present ourselves as a solution by putting ourselves right in front of the person at the right time.

Whether you chop down that tree or not, it may come down anyway, and do you want to be in control of where it lands, or do you want to wait to see if disaster happens or if, at a minimum, you escape with your life?

Taking out the (head) trash!

Head by Fimb on Flickr

Head by Fimb on Flickr

There are many phrases for it, many of which I’ve heard recently. This leads me to believe that there a personal message about this personal growth rite of passage meant for me to notice and use in my life. “Going to the fire.” “Being on the field instead of in the stands.” ” You can’t go around it you have to go through it.”

For the most part I have prided myself on taking epic leaps in my life for the sake of personal or professional expansion. My comfort zone is much more vast than the 8-year-old me would have even imagined. Since being that scared, intimidated, self-conscious little girl, I have made it a mission to prove to myself what I’m capable of. However, in my quest for personal and professional development, I am confronted and very haunted by things from my past – stories that I have inherited, stubborn self-limiting beliefs that remain, and bitterness and resentment that resurfaces during moments of weakness.  While I know, logically and consciously that these beliefs are just reoccurring stories that my brain made up and have very little truth in them, my subconscious believes them.  They continually redirect my life to align with the self-limiting beliefs rather than the identity I have been striving to create for myself.

 

Why do I have so much to prove to myself?

It is the answer to this question that is, fundamentally, the reason I hold myself back. I’ve tried various methods of ridding myself of this belief –  EFT, The Sedona Method, meditation, affirmations, declarations, incantations, etc. I still believe that all these methods have tremendous application to my life, but for this one reoccurring story, they have not done the job of ridding me of it.  (This Brainathon event on Saturday looks promising, but still…)

In my practice of being present, I notice signals that are meant to prompt me into appropriate action. I do believe there is no such thing as coincidence. I believe that there is an energy that is common among all of us, that if we tune into it, all of our questions and qualms are answered. I believe that this is how we achieve a self-actualized life. The message that I have been getting loud and clear lately from various sources, including Eddie Vedder‘s interview with WMMR, a speaker that I had for a social media subgroup that I run, my intern, and various books and articles that have been passed my way in the past couple months, is this:

I need to stop avoiding the source of the story and deal with it directly.

This means potential conflict with someone that I love. That means that there’s the potential that I could, by bringing this to light, cause a rift that could impact not just my relationship with this person, but other people’s relationships as well. I’m resolved that I have done everything possible to overcome this story without assuming such a risk. It will eventually become part of my new story. But I have to resolve the old one first. I’m sure if you have read this far, you probably want to know what that story is and who I’m implicating as being the cause. I assure you – the cause is me – I created the story. I know this, and I know I can create a new story. But I have to walk through the fire. There’s no more thinking I can get around it. The story reoccurs unless I put it to rest with this individual now.

I know I make it through it. I know the other person will make it through it as well. And when I share with you my new story you will get all the juicy details of the old one. Until I have the opportunity to share the story with the individual who inspired it, she will remain anonymous.

I fully anticipate someday that I will revolutionize careering and hiring. Someday, I will by a sought-after keynote speaker and visible spokesperson for career empowerment. I know that there are many people out there who have similar or smaller dreams and are stopped by head trash. If you don’t have any trash, or even if you do, and you live an actualized life, you may see other people who are inabile to succeed up to their own standards as lazy, weak leeches who would rather be supported by the government and others’ hard work than go out and help themselves. I see that head trash is an epidemic – it is a toxin that has poisoned the minds of too many people who have amazing potential. Someday, I will tell my story and help other people take out the trash, transcend their pasts, and write new futures. So, if I’m going to “call out” this person in a very public forum someday anyway, I’d rather tell them now about the stories that I made up about them and about me.

 

Stay tuned and wish me luck.

Girl power = human power!

I was proud to be a woman last Friday at the PA Governor’s Conference for Women. My junior writer and I were there critiquing résumés in the afternoon, but were invited to attend the rest of the day’s events, which included keynotes from Madeleine Albright and Hillary Rodham Clinton. If you weren’t one of the 7,000 in attendance, please benefit from my attendance and the powerful words that made an impression on me. My phone died in the middle of the day, so I did not tweet everyone’s excerpts, but I am including the images from my Twitter account (@epiccareering, which you should follow!) and copying and pasting the rest. One speaker did not want her quotes tweeted, but she didn’t say anything about blogging 🙂

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@JudgeGHatchett #pennwomen when you get torn pages in life’s books, write your own story- the world needs it!

@AmandaSteinberg on Work/Life integration

Shake things up. Be creative about how you structure your life. Abandon fear of what the world will think of you.

 

Blood-shot eyes = the way leadership looks sometimes.

 

It’s okay that men can work as hard as they need to work to be as successful as they can be, but it’s not okay for women to do the same. There is still extreme gender bias to work through in this area.

 

Advice to millenials – Figure out a skill that you can teach yourself to make yourself marketable. This way, you have the financial power to say “no” and dictate your own terms to your life.

 

Linda Cliatt-Waymen, Principal of Strawberry Mansion High School:

 

Children do not choose the families and communities in which they are born, but they are US citizens, and that gives them the right to a productive life and a quality education. Women of clout have power, influence to inspire all of us to make an investment in education.

“Greatness is determined by service.” ~ MLK